How to Recognize Anxiety and Depression in Teens (and What to Do About It)
As parents, we want our children to be happy and healthy—but sometimes, teens struggle with emotions they don’t fully understand or know how to express. Anxiety and depression in teens can look different from how they appear in adults, making it difficult to recognize the signs. This guide will help you understand the symptoms, when to be concerned, and how to support your teen’s mental well-being.
Recognizing Anxiety in Teens
While all teens experience worries and fear at times, persistent or intense anxiety may signal a deeper issue. Common signs include:
- Physical Symptoms: Frequent stomachaches, headaches, muscle tension, or trouble sleeping.
- Excessive Worrying: Constant fears about school, friendships, or everyday activities.
- Avoidance Behavior: Refusing to go to school, avoiding social interactions, or withdrawing from activities they used to enjoy.
- Irritability & Restlessness: Appearing on edge, overly emotional, or having difficulty focusing.
- Perfectionism & Self-Doubt: Excessive fear of failure, seeking reassurance, or feeling “not good enough.”
When to Seek Help: If your teens’s anxiety is interfering with their daily life—such as causing them to avoid school, struggle with friendships, or experience frequent physical complaints—it may be time to consult a mental health professional.
Recognizing Depression in Teens
Depression in teens often goes beyond sadness. Some warning signs include:
- Persistent Sadness or Low Mood: Feeling hopeless, down, or crying more often than usual.
- Loss of Interest: No longer enjoying hobbies, playtime, or social activities.
- Changes in Appetite or Sleep: Sleeping too much or too little, or changes in eating habits.
- Low Energy & Fatigue: Constant tiredness or lack of motivation.
- Irritability or Anger: Increased frustration, outbursts, or emotional sensitivity.
- Self-Critical Thoughts: Expressing feelings of worthlessness, guilt, or thoughts of self-harm.
When to Seek Help: If these symptoms persist for more than two weeks and interfere with daily life, professional support is crucial.
How Parents Can Support Their Teen’s Mental Health
Encourage Open Conversations
As a parent, you play a crucial role in creating a safe space where your teen feels comfortable expressing their emotions. Avoid dismissing their feelings with phrases like “you’re overreacting” or “you have nothing to worry about.” Instead, say, “I hear you, and “I’m here to listen and try and help.”
Normalize Mental Health
Talk about emotions openly and model healthy coping strategies such as taking a break, going for a walk, or doing a favorite activity. Let them know it’s normal and expected to feel anxious or sad sometimes. Use feelings wheels and other resources (I’m a big fan of Dr. Suess’ My Many Colored Day for all ages!)
Teach Coping Skills
Help your child practice deep breathing, mindfulness, and journaling to manage overwhelming feelings.
Teach Problem Solving
Use problem solving skills with your teen to help them be strategic and solve the parts of the problem they have control over.
Limit Social Media Exposure
Social media can contribute to anxiety and low self-esteem. Encourage balanced screen use and quality family time, which can include activities like playing board games, watching a movie, cooking together, or going for a family outing.
Seek Professional Support
If your teens’ symptoms persist, a therapist can provide tools to help them manage their emotions in a healthy way. Therapy isn’t just for crises—it’s a proactive step toward better mental health.
Your teen’s mental health is just as important as their physical health. If you notice signs of anxiety or depression, early support can make a big difference. Remember, you are not alone in this journey—help is available, and there are many other parents going through similar experiences.
Our team at Metropolitan Counseling Associates offers therapy for teens and groups for parents. Contact us to learn more!